excerpt from class one training manual (2015) day one
The gestural tendencies in everyday conversation are varied and mostly random when observed. However, gestures indicate small pieces of intent and meaning in our speech with other people. Over the years, several pioneers (Jeffries) have developed methods to use gestures to control and or change the subconscious meaning of words and phrases.
As we speak naturally, our fingers, hands and arms move naturally and sometimes make meaningful reference to an object, direction or motion. We do this to communicate and assist our language in getting a specific theme or idea across. These gestures in conversation go completely unnoticed most of the time. As we speak, we don’t monitor or consciously process gestures and behavior of arms and hands. As humans, we process all of the meaning of gestures in conversation on an unconscious level.
This tendency in humans to be unaware of most hand and arm gestures can be exploited in order to use these gestures to signify a very pointed meaning. Since the gestures are only being processed on an unconscious level, the meaning we signify with them will be mostly unconsciously absorbed. Here, we will give examples of hijacking this already unconscious process and deliberately creating a scenario that lends itself to a more favorable outcome.
This can be used in many scenarios, along with the other training you’ll receive in the advanced module such as:
Job Interviews
Traffic Ticket / Police stop
Getting upgraded to first class on an airplane
Interrogation in law enforcement
NOTE: This is phase one of gestural markers. Phase two will discuss how to exploit accidental physical contact, dropping car keys and objects, harnessing and using strategic confusion and using behavioral conversation interruptions to disrupt unwanted thought processes.
(While this is not seduction training, any highly advanced training in communication and behavior is inherently applicable to seduction.)
Imagine a conversation between two people about a restaurant. As they discuss the quality of the restaurant, think about some of the key phrases you might hear when someone speaks positively about it:
· Absolutely the best thing I’ve seen
· Wonderful service
· Trustworthy people
· Something you just want to have all the time
· Absolutely perfect
· Comfortable place to be
· Want to go there all the time
These phrases are simple examples you might hear in such a conversation. As you think about the phrases, you might imagine that not much gestural movement is being done while people are saying them. Now imagine if you were able to attach all of the above phrases to yourself within a conversation. You could mold and shape the images of you in a subject’s mind in almost no time at all.
Making a simple and subtle gesture towards yourself (torso) with your hands and fingers will eventually build unconscious recognition in the subject and cause an unconscious marker to associate the phrase with the focus of your gestures. The gesture should be performed with relaxed hands and a smooth, fluid motion so as not to be so quick or dramatic as to cause the subject’s gaze to shift to your hands.
Thinking along these lines, imagine associating traits with your subject that you might want them to associate with for the conversation. You can gesture towards the subject when you want to associate a phrase with them. This helps to control their behavior and can actually change their mental state by itself. In the following example, consider the implications of making subtle gestures toward your subject’s torso as you spoke the phrases while speaking about a local doctor’s office you frequent:
· Always comfortable
· Knowing you are safe
· Completely able to trust
· Always knowing you are taken care of
· Having that feeling of knowing you’re in the right hands
· Feeling absolutely comfortable
· Trust completely
These phrases, when gesturally associated with the subject, begin the process of unconscious association. The gestural markers create a tie between the object of the gesture and the spoken phrase.
Next, imagine speaking about an episode of ‘The Bachelor’ and used the following phrases in a HUMINT (human intelligence) gathering or seduction scenario:
· Become completely attracted (gesturing to the subject)
· Get so curious about this (gesturing to operator)
· Start to realize you’re addicted to something (gesture to operator)
· Feel that sense of fascination (gesture to subject) and then the commercial break comes (lean back) and all you want to do is find out what happens next (now gesturing back and forth between subject and operator)
· They look at this guy (gesturing to operator) and just feel so compelled (gesturing to subject) to do whatever it takes to get him (gesturing to operator)
· She feels herself (gesturing to the subject) realizing this growing feeling of … just…what do I (gesture to subject) have to do to be with this guy (gesturing to operator)?
Triggering the association is easy, but this gesturing method requires practice. No training manual or mental rehearsal can substitute for this.
Activating Trust
Whether you are operating in a bar or an interrogation room, the development of trust, and sometimes endearment is essential to the production of actionable HUMINT, confession-comfort or interpersonal trust. This method relies on generalized accepted gestures and assumes the ubiquity of basic gestural associations in Western countries.
When you live in a Western country, some gestures are universal. In the United States, we place our hand over our heart to signify a promise, indicate sincerity and pledge our allegiance to our country. In all western civilization, this behavior of putting the hand to the heart is also a common sign of deep, emotional feelings and sincerity. Imagine a woman hearing news of a heart-warming story coming to a perfect ending. This gesture is seen in both sexes, but women tend to do it 9% more than men. (Morris, 1978). It is also commonly associated with a slight degree of head tilt to the left.
Imagine replicating this gesture during a conversation using when the following phrases are spoken:
· Finally open up and know you’re completely safe
· Know that you did the right thing and you’re a good person who deserves to get their side of the story on the record so people understand
· Just let go of the old beliefs someone gave you
· Realizing you’re with someone who is only here to help and who you can trust
NOTE: While these may not include every scenario or seem to have some of the conversational behavior engineering elements left out, it is important that this concept is understood before moving forward in the training.
· Become completely vulnerable
· Realize how small we all are…how fragile life is
· Finally understand how things work, and seeing all your old beliefs for what they really are
· Knowing when you can truly let go and trust…all the way
· Letting yourself finally trust someone
· Completely allowing yourself to just feel what’s happening
· So many people zone out, but it’s good to meet someone you know you can trust…who is here…now
· These superstitions about behavior hold so many people back, it’s so different to meet someone who doesn’t wear the handcuffs of restraint…who can just let go.
NOTE: This block is only meant to illustrate the capacity of this technique to change behavior as a stand-alone. When you learn, in the next chapter, to incorporate it with the next method, you will be able to do a lot more. From getting free coffee to huge discounts at stores, the next chapter covers limited-timeframe behavior engineering and it was important to grasp this concept before moving forward.
As we speak naturally, our fingers, hands and arms move naturally and sometimes make meaningful reference to an object, direction or motion. We do this to communicate and assist our language in getting a specific theme or idea across. These gestures in conversation go completely unnoticed most of the time. As we speak, we don’t monitor or consciously process gestures and behavior of arms and hands. As humans, we process all of the meaning of gestures in conversation on an unconscious level.
This tendency in humans to be unaware of most hand and arm gestures can be exploited in order to use these gestures to signify a very pointed meaning. Since the gestures are only being processed on an unconscious level, the meaning we signify with them will be mostly unconsciously absorbed. Here, we will give examples of hijacking this already unconscious process and deliberately creating a scenario that lends itself to a more favorable outcome.
This can be used in many scenarios, along with the other training you’ll receive in the advanced module such as:
Job Interviews
Traffic Ticket / Police stop
Getting upgraded to first class on an airplane
Interrogation in law enforcement
NOTE: This is phase one of gestural markers. Phase two will discuss how to exploit accidental physical contact, dropping car keys and objects, harnessing and using strategic confusion and using behavioral conversation interruptions to disrupt unwanted thought processes.
(While this is not seduction training, any highly advanced training in communication and behavior is inherently applicable to seduction.)
Imagine a conversation between two people about a restaurant. As they discuss the quality of the restaurant, think about some of the key phrases you might hear when someone speaks positively about it:
· Absolutely the best thing I’ve seen
· Wonderful service
· Trustworthy people
· Something you just want to have all the time
· Absolutely perfect
· Comfortable place to be
· Want to go there all the time
These phrases are simple examples you might hear in such a conversation. As you think about the phrases, you might imagine that not much gestural movement is being done while people are saying them. Now imagine if you were able to attach all of the above phrases to yourself within a conversation. You could mold and shape the images of you in a subject’s mind in almost no time at all.
Making a simple and subtle gesture towards yourself (torso) with your hands and fingers will eventually build unconscious recognition in the subject and cause an unconscious marker to associate the phrase with the focus of your gestures. The gesture should be performed with relaxed hands and a smooth, fluid motion so as not to be so quick or dramatic as to cause the subject’s gaze to shift to your hands.
Thinking along these lines, imagine associating traits with your subject that you might want them to associate with for the conversation. You can gesture towards the subject when you want to associate a phrase with them. This helps to control their behavior and can actually change their mental state by itself. In the following example, consider the implications of making subtle gestures toward your subject’s torso as you spoke the phrases while speaking about a local doctor’s office you frequent:
· Always comfortable
· Knowing you are safe
· Completely able to trust
· Always knowing you are taken care of
· Having that feeling of knowing you’re in the right hands
· Feeling absolutely comfortable
· Trust completely
These phrases, when gesturally associated with the subject, begin the process of unconscious association. The gestural markers create a tie between the object of the gesture and the spoken phrase.
Next, imagine speaking about an episode of ‘The Bachelor’ and used the following phrases in a HUMINT (human intelligence) gathering or seduction scenario:
· Become completely attracted (gesturing to the subject)
· Get so curious about this (gesturing to operator)
· Start to realize you’re addicted to something (gesture to operator)
· Feel that sense of fascination (gesture to subject) and then the commercial break comes (lean back) and all you want to do is find out what happens next (now gesturing back and forth between subject and operator)
· They look at this guy (gesturing to operator) and just feel so compelled (gesturing to subject) to do whatever it takes to get him (gesturing to operator)
· She feels herself (gesturing to the subject) realizing this growing feeling of … just…what do I (gesture to subject) have to do to be with this guy (gesturing to operator)?
Triggering the association is easy, but this gesturing method requires practice. No training manual or mental rehearsal can substitute for this.
Activating Trust
Whether you are operating in a bar or an interrogation room, the development of trust, and sometimes endearment is essential to the production of actionable HUMINT, confession-comfort or interpersonal trust. This method relies on generalized accepted gestures and assumes the ubiquity of basic gestural associations in Western countries.
When you live in a Western country, some gestures are universal. In the United States, we place our hand over our heart to signify a promise, indicate sincerity and pledge our allegiance to our country. In all western civilization, this behavior of putting the hand to the heart is also a common sign of deep, emotional feelings and sincerity. Imagine a woman hearing news of a heart-warming story coming to a perfect ending. This gesture is seen in both sexes, but women tend to do it 9% more than men. (Morris, 1978). It is also commonly associated with a slight degree of head tilt to the left.
Imagine replicating this gesture during a conversation using when the following phrases are spoken:
· Finally open up and know you’re completely safe
· Know that you did the right thing and you’re a good person who deserves to get their side of the story on the record so people understand
· Just let go of the old beliefs someone gave you
· Realizing you’re with someone who is only here to help and who you can trust
NOTE: While these may not include every scenario or seem to have some of the conversational behavior engineering elements left out, it is important that this concept is understood before moving forward in the training.
· Become completely vulnerable
· Realize how small we all are…how fragile life is
· Finally understand how things work, and seeing all your old beliefs for what they really are
· Knowing when you can truly let go and trust…all the way
· Letting yourself finally trust someone
· Completely allowing yourself to just feel what’s happening
· So many people zone out, but it’s good to meet someone you know you can trust…who is here…now
· These superstitions about behavior hold so many people back, it’s so different to meet someone who doesn’t wear the handcuffs of restraint…who can just let go.
NOTE: This block is only meant to illustrate the capacity of this technique to change behavior as a stand-alone. When you learn, in the next chapter, to incorporate it with the next method, you will be able to do a lot more. From getting free coffee to huge discounts at stores, the next chapter covers limited-timeframe behavior engineering and it was important to grasp this concept before moving forward.